Here is a topic that I wanted to talk about for the past 6 months and never had the time to do it. The thinks is break ups suck. But we all go through them at one point in our life. No matter of the age, gender or race, love hurts. There is no right time to break up, no right or wrong reason and no easy way to do it. They usually left us feeling alone with a broken heart.
I have for you 5 rules to follow when you get dumped.
- Don’t call text right after a break up!
The thing is, you guys broke up for a reason. After 1 day of the brake up, that reason is still there. You cannot fix it over night and the relationship hit a dead point.
The best thing to do: Give it some time! Time has healing powers and makes you think in perspective. My trick is to get yourself busy with something else, like your work, school, art whatever you enjoy doing. Also get some support from your friends. Talk to one of your friends and every single time you feel like calling your ex, call your friend instead.
If your ex does call you, text him/her back and tell them that you need time and get back to them in 2 weeks.
2.Never ever BEG!!!
Ok, this one is easy you think. Not really. Heartbreaks really exist. In medicine is known as stress cardiomyopathy which is a type of non-ischemiccardiomyopathy in which there is a sudden temporary weakening of the muscular portion of the heart. Because this weakening can be triggered by emotional stress, such as the death of a loved one, a break-up, or constant anxiety, it is also known as broken-heart syndrome.
In a time like this you cannot think clearly. You can react to the person you love like a drogaddict reacts to the drug. That brands me to my point, no matter how hard, and how much it hurts, DON’T BEG! That will not help the relationship, it will make the other fell pithy of you and ever if he will come back, it will be for a short period of time. No one like a person that is dependent on them and can’t live without them.
If now you’re thinking… But I want him back so bad… That’s great. Then don’t BEG! If you really want your ex back, you need to let him come back to you and not the other way around.
3.Time to clean up
Cleaning up your apartment / your room. I’m pretty radical. In a situation like this, I will do those in a minute. You need to move on from what you had and start to heal. I bet it will be 10 times harder if you wake up every morning and see the photo of you and you ex smiling on your night stand. So, get a box, put all the things that remind you of your ex into a box and put the box in storage, at your parents, somewhere where you can’ see it. Out of sight, out of mind. It’s just easy like that.
4.Change is good for you
Here the thing, if you are a women, you have affective memory. That means that just seeing his name appear on your phone can bring up a lot of memories. If you clean up your phone, you can also clean up your computer and your phone. Same thing. Change his name! That is the first thing that you should do. After select all the photos and put them in a folder out of reach. What I also did, is unfollow on facebook- you can do that without unfriend him and none of his photos will show up in your timeline.
5.Do something for you!
Dye your hair, go to cooking classes, learn a new language, start meditating, whatever makes you happy and keeps you busy. You did your best to make the relationship work, it didn’t and there is nothing to do about it right now. Give it 2 weeks, a month and just work on yourself. Soon you will start seeing things in perspective, trust me.
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